I am a Christian, Veteran, gentleman who has been widowed for 3 years, 65, and living in Cincinnati. Perhaps my best introduction would be a post I made today.
How EASY, is it to date?
In High School, many students had drama from home, and that interfered with their dating.
Also, many students put people in ranges so there were people above your range and people below.
I was on the Varsity Wrestling Team but barely noticed outside of that. However, I did not consider any of that when I dated.
I dated, not to get into a girl's pants or up her blouse. I dated a girl because I enjoyed being with a girl.
I dated the head cheerleader. Not for romance but for refreshments and movies. Although I did try to get her to go to my house. Not for romance, but to show her off to my family, but she refused. Mostly because of other boys she had dated.
I also dated girls even though I was above their range, not for romance, but for refreshments and movies. I also invited them to go to my house. Not for romance, but to show them off to my family. Some went, some did not. I always thought it was great dating somebody that thought I was special.
I was married to a great woman for 27 years. She taught me what was best for her, and also for many other women.
Now, 40 years later, I would think most people would have realized that every person is special and deserves respect.
What I find on the dating sites, seems like we are back in school. Only instead of drama from home, it is drama from past relationships. I think regardless of whose fault it is; you have to deal with past relationships.
Perhaps you did not take the time to get to know who they were. Maybe over time they changed, you changed, or both changed.
Regardless of what it was, look how you got there. Then come up with steps to prevent that. Life is short and you will never have the time to do all you would enjoy doing, so live now, live today!
I did not have the Drama at home, so I dated many girls in school.
I had a great marriage, so no drama and I date many women now, over 40 in the last 3 years.
How I work...
I date a woman as a companion for an event. I think Humility and Respect are required for a date. I want us both to enjoy the event and be nice to other people.
On our 1st date, I will find out how comfortable we are together.
If all goes well, we should have a few more dates.
If those go well, I would like us to get to know each other better.
Once we know each other better, I will know if I would be interested in a romance with you and would like to talk about it. If that goes well, I will look forward to our 1st kiss.
From there anything but casual sex is possible. I do not do casual sex, but would like to build our intimacy.
This is for a relationship. If you are looking for money, a career, help with a business, or a hook-up, then you need to tell each other and decide how to go from there.
As for me, I am looking for a relationship near Cincinnati.
This also applies to those of us who are widowed. We should save our memories in a special place in our heart and use what we have learned to have a great relationship in the future.
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