Cues by John M Walker

In my last article, I eluded to picking up on some discreet hints that someone may like you.

As I wrote before, liking a post or a picture is one way to drop a hint, and noticing someone repetitively liking your stuff is another, for some reason as adults, we somewhat regress to early learning tactics from lack of experience and fear of rejection though we know we shouldn't really fear it.

In the past, I've been just as guilty as anyone else by hoping to be noticed from these little gestures, and like everyone else, I too have waited and still wait to be noticed, but how can we be a little more obvious of our interest? How can we put it out there and still feel secure that this offering won't be rejected, scoffed at or rudely dismissed?

In this "club" that we never wanted to be a part of its very clear that no-matter the path that brought us here, we are all suffering on some level, our hearts were broken, some families were torn apart and grief lives with us daily so it's really no wonder that we are overly sensitive and fearful; add to that the fact that our comfort zone has been relocated to another dimension without notice and our ideas on dating became outdated without even so much as a memo, so how can we turn this around without reinventing the wheel and navigate through to move forward with our lives to a place where our happiness will flourish once again??

At this juncture I really don't feel that there could be any indirect way possible, we can't pass a note through a friend asking to check yes or no and it's not practical to invent a code.

Feelings will get bruised, egos will have to be put aside and pride??? Yup... gotta swallow it... We're all too old for kid games and we have to use the very same advice we gave our friends and kids and just suck it up buttercup, why not just take a risk and put it out there? it's only a 50/50 chance and the odds are great don't you think??? Besides, most everyone can hide behind their computer or phone so what are we/you waiting on??? Life is short remember? Didn't we say to ourselves that we aren't going to let life just slip on by??

Lastly, folks..... check your messages, someone took the time and mustered up the courage to take a chance and we owe it just as much to ourselves as them to at least have the courtesy to acknowledge and politely answer. Be strong and choose to live again... We all want that and maybe someday someone will even choose to take a chance on me. Time will tell and I promise to answer my messages... It can't hurt. You never know who could be interested???